Searching for Birth History--Tips and Tricks for Adoptees

I still remember when I scratched out a letter to the probate judge in pencil on simple notebook paper. Bob and I were vacationing in northern Michigan. The rest of the family was out on the beach, but that flame for truth had been ignited within me so that even the beach I loved […]

How To Gain/Miss Entrance to the Adopted Child's World

Dear friends,

This is an excerpt from Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew (Chapter 2) (

What will prevent access to your child’s world?

Avoid the topic of adoption as long as possible. Hope that your child will never ask about his or her past. Deny the differences between your adopted […]

Hidden Losses for Adopted Children

Row upon row of tombstones lined the lush lawns as I drove through the tall black iron gates toward my adoptive parents’ graves. An elderly man filled a plastic pitcher at a spigot and the smell of freshly mowed grass filled the air. A new grave was being dug across the way, a vivid reminder […]