How To Gain/Miss Entrance to the Adopted Child's World

Dear friends,

This is an excerpt from Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew (Chapter 2) (

What will prevent access to your child’s world?

Avoid the topic of adoption as long as possible. Hope that your child will never ask about his or her past. Deny the differences between your adopted […]

Hidden Losses for Adopted Children

Row upon row of tombstones lined the lush lawns as I drove through the tall black iron gates toward my adoptive parents’ graves. An elderly man filled a plastic pitcher at a spigot and the smell of freshly mowed grass filled the air. A new grave was being dug across the way, a vivid reminder […]

Why Some Adoptees Are Caught Unaware

Dear friends,

I am pleased to announce the arrival of my latest book–20 Life-Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make (March 15, 2015.) This is a “repub,” but loaded with much new information and many new chapters, including how adoptees can get unstuck from a painful past.

Here is the first part of the first […]